Your Open Invitation to a Swingers Party

Swingers parties can’t really be as glamorous as we’ve seen them portrayed in mainstream movies and TV shows, can they? I mean, beautiful people in swanky uptown penthouses or suburban mansions having hot sex with anyone and everyone they choose. Can it be that awesome? If An Open Invitation is to be believed, the answer is a resounding yes!

Up front, let me say this movie is definitely recommend for couples. It has things for both you and the men in your life to enjoy. An Open Invitation bills itself as a peek into a real San Francisco swingers party with 127 real swingers and a few porn actors and actresses thrown into the mix. That technique is popular with so-called “reality” sites featuring amatuers who need a little motivation to join in whatever activity the website is featuring. It really isn’t difficult on those sites to pick out the professionals from the shy spectators who eventually dive into the frivolity. But Open Invitation is a bit different in that every person in this movie, whether they’re the porn actors or the non-professional amatuers, are used to having sex with multiple partners. They’re certainly not shy! But the most refreshing aspect here is their appearance. The women haven’t had boob jobs and don’t have perfect bodies. The men aren’t ripped six pack-sporting bronze Adonises. They could be you and your neighbors.

The beginning of the movie is fictionalized, setting up the actual swing party footage. A young couple (the Blumes), bored with their sex lives, have a chance meeting at a restaurant with another couple, the Angels. After hitting it off, the Angels  invite the Blumes to a party where some partner-swapping ensues, forcing the Blumes to re-assess their sex lives. Mutual trust issues are explored here, as is the true definition of what being faithful and in love is. Realizing they love each other but need the extra spark an alternative sexual lifestyle can provide, they opt to hookup with the couple they met at the restaurant again, this time coming with them to a rather large swingers party at a very fancy San Francisco penthouse.

But does it cover the subject matter fairly and accurately? Immediately after its release, Open Invitation garnered immense respect from  Swingers’ communities wordwide for its realistic portrayal of the subject matter. The parts of the movie that are ‘acted’ are acted well and the dialogue is superb so kudos to the writers. But like most adult movies, the sex scenes seem to drag on at times, something I guess just can’t be avoided when making a sex flick. But the message that was driven home to me is, despite mainstream entertainment’s portrayal to the contrary,  swingers aren’t dysfunctional for being swingers. They don’t have troubled marriages anymore than anyone else. They’re certainly more open and a lot more trusting. And there’s nothing wrong with that.

If you’ve ever considered swinging, been curious about what really goes on at a swingers party or just need a really hot movie to spice up your relationship, Open Invitation is your ticket. Pick it up at Babeland!

Swingers Glossery

1. Soft swinging: Also known as soft swap, this is doing everything with another person except sexual intercourse. Usually you’ll will stop at the last minute and switch back to their original partner. At this point they might choose to have sex with their own partner in front of the other people. Most first-time swingers begin this way.

2. Open swinging: This is when the couples swap (know as full swap) and actually have sexual intercourse in the same room or on the same bed. This includes threesomes, orgies, exhibitionism, voyeurism and anything in between.

3. Closed swinging: Usually a full swap, but sexual intercourse takes place in separate rooms. This is for those who feel the need for more freedom or don’t like interruptions. This type of swing is mainly practiced by the more experienced couples, as a higher degree of trust is essential.

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With political activists as parents, Stephanie learned gender politics at an early age and embraced stiletto feminism in high school. As a marketing professional, she’s written for a variety of publications. She founded to be a voice for the sex-positive alpha female.


  1. Wow!! Ok, I totally wondered “how” one ever begins to do this but now that I’ve read the “stages” or types of swinging I can totally understand being able to finally do it. I’ve wondered & so has my guy but we’ve often feared the whole “jealousy” thing. I’m thinking starting out with the “soft swinging” stage would be a great way to start!!! Thanks for the insight!