The Oprah Show TODAY: Women and Erotica

Don’t miss it today, November 17!  Oprah and Lisa Ling and adult actress Jenna Jamison discuss why millions of women are using porn and erotica to spice up their love lives.

Did you know according to Nielsen/NetRatings, approximately one in three visitors to adult entertainment Web sites are female and nearly 13 million American women checking out porn online at least once each month?

Theresa Flynt, vice president of marketing for Hustler video, says that women account for 56 percent of business at her company’s video stores. “And the female audience is increasing,” she adds. “Women are buying more porn.” (They’re creating more of it, too: Female director Candida Royalle’s hard-core erotic videos, made expressly for women viewers, sell at the rate of approximately 10,000 copies a month.)

Meanwhile, science is finally buying into the idea that women get as turned on by porn as men.

jennaIn a 2006 study at McGill University, researchers monitored genital temperature changes to measure sexual arousal and found that, when shown porn clips, men and women alike began displaying arousal within 30 seconds; men reached maximum arousal in about 11 minutes, women in about 12 (a statistically negligible difference, according to the study).

But here’s the hitch: Even when our bodies respond to what we’re seeing, not every woman feels empowered to enjoy the show. For years we’ve been told that we won’t — or shouldn’t — be turned on by porn, end of story, sleep tight.  When everyone tells you that what you might be curious about, or even secretly like, is wrong, bad, sleazy, and shameful, you don’t have to cast a line very far to land a set of inhibitions.

Women are changing the market, thouh. Director Maria Beatty’s gorgeously shot movies  look like 1920s noir films with sex, but not explicit sex — just a lot of tease and dreamy outfits and music. And Comstock Films, maker of high-quality, documentary-style, real-couples videos, aggressively markets to women with the simple tagline “Women love real sex.”

Explicit sexual imagery is an aphrodisiac; it sends a direct current buzzing from our brains to our groins. Like a reliable vibrator, it can be a great tool. With porn, women get to experiment with making adult choices and trying on new fantasy ideas, just as we might try a new pair of shoes.

We don’t have to think of rationality and animalistic urges as mutually exclusive. If we desire, we can let them play together like tennis doubles. Porn is one more pleasure to add to life’s sexual buffet, one that can be enjoyed with a partner or alone.

(Adapted from an article by Violet Blue)

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With political activists as parents, Stephanie learned gender politics at an early age and embraced stiletto feminism in high school. As a marketing professional, she’s written for a variety of publications. She founded to be a voice for the sex-positive alpha female.


  1. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a while and we feel like its the same thing all the time with sex. What are some ways to make things more exciting and interesting. We are up for anything. Tips on more and better fore play, any oral sex tips and suggestions. Anything. thanks for the help