Cannabis has an astonishing potential as a medicine, for which the body evidence continues to pile up. It can be used both to relieve symptoms of pain and mental trauma, as well as to actually reverse the effects of chronic diseases and ailments. But cannabis’s powers of enhancement are not confined to the medical world. The herb can also be handy in the bedroom as a potent aphrodisiac, according to a love doctor of sorts that I had the great pleasure of interviewing, named Lisa “Mamakind” Kirkman. Kirkman is a sex advice columnist, cannabis activist and author of Sex Pot: The Marijuana Lover’s Guide to Gettin’ It On. Just in time for the lovers’ holiday, she chatted with me about such eyebrow-raising topics as why sex and pot go so well together, smoking fetishes and strains recommended for the best sex.
Pot enhances sex for both biological and social reasons, according to Kirkman. She said we experience a heightened state of arousal because oxytocin—which is naturally released during breastfeeding, sexual arousal and orgasm— is also stimulated when cannabis is consumed. Kirkman noted that some of the earliest recorded cannabis use is related to childbirth because cannabis strengthens contractions. So, the muscle-contracting properties of cannabis could be utilized to enhance sexual performance.
That said, here’s a sexy cannabis guide, derived from Kirkman’s most stimulating facts and tips in our interview. Share it with your Valentines, this week and beyond:
Socially, pot can amplify sex appeal because smoking is commonly a shared activity. Sharing pot creates an enjoyable, communal experience. Kirkman said it’s also a good way to meet other pot loving singles. Share your stash with a cutie at a party. Your mutual appreciation of pot will be an easy conversation starter as you puff, puff, pass with your new friend.
The Neck Rub of Pot Heads
For some, the act of smoking is sexualized into a fetish. The use of the mouth, the spark of fire, lips on a piece of beautiful, ornate glassware and lilting plumes of smoke can be a turn on, Kirkman notes. She recommends sharing a joint, shotgun style (blowing the smoke directly one mouth to the next), with your lover. It’s the “neck rub for pot heads,” as Kirkman puts it, and can lead to much more.
So, what pot strains are especially good for sex? Kirkman said strains with a 70/30 percent hybrid ration are better than 100 percent pure strains. Pure strains can cause extreme effects like paranoia—in Sativas— and sleepiness—in Indicas, especially with inexperienced and occasional pot users.
With the caveat that everybody is different and may not have the same reaction to these strains, here are a few recommendations to boost male and female libidos, starting with the basics.
For energy- Sativa are uplifting and awakening. As Kirkman puts it, “Sativa get you going.” Any Sativa strain, good for physical activity like dancing, is also good for “horizontal dancing.” Kirkman’s Sativa favorites are “Flo” and “Skunk #1.”
For relaxation- Indicas relax the muscles, relax the mind, relax it all. Kirkman notes that sometimes just relaxing a little bit is what someone might need to have better, more fulfilling sex. Kirkman mentions “Blueberry”as a favorite relaxing Indica.
What’s in a name, you ask?- Some strains, by name alone, suggest a fun roll in the hay, like: “Fucking Incredible,” “Burmese Fucking Incredible” and“Matanuska Thunder Fuck.”
Just like Viagra- What strains are specifically heralded for their Viagra-like effects? For seduction and mental wooing, Kirkman recommends “Voodoo” as the key to unlocking unbridled passion. To unleash the sexual beast within, Kirkman recommends “Godbud,”and “Afghani Bullrider.”
Sex Pot Games
And for seasoned stoners who have smoked it all, Kirkman suggests fun “Sex Pot games.”
One game involves partner pain play with alternating licking exposed skin and teasing with the cherry ember of a smoking joint. (Safety note: do not use hash laced joints for any pain play games! Hash will melt on the skin and the goal is fun, OK?) Another game, The Human Hookah, happens when a woman’s partner takes bubbler hits from a bubbler strategically inserted inside the woman. The vibrations from the bubbler will make the woman giggle with outrageous pleasure.
There are more games, but you’ll have to read Kirkman’s book if you want to know how to play! One important parting message: whatever you do in the name of sex and love for Valentine’s Day, or any day,make it absolutely consensual and safe.