I want to preface this article by stating I have never been in a cuckold relationship. I wanted to write this article solely on the basis of interest in sexual happiness, and the curiosity of how to maintain it in a long-term relationship. Through my last month of research, I have discovered that part of my hypothesis was correct. Living a cuckold lifestyle can increase happiness in a long-term relationship, however, what I realized is happiness can only exist if the lifestyle is explored between the right couple.
In this article, I will discuss what a cuckold relationship is, who the right candidates are to enter into a cuckold relationship and who aren’t, what types of questions to ask your partner before deciding to involve another man and why cuckolding is a great lifestyle to enhance female sexual happiness.
Cuckolding is one of the fastest growing alternative lifestyles today. Cuckolding is a sexual lifestyle shared between a husband and wife. The couple agrees to involve another man that will have sexual relations with the wife or she will have the option to date other men. The husband is named the cuckold, the wife is called hotwife, and the single man is the bull. The term bull is used more widely in interracial cuckolding.
According to thedailybeast.com, there are three types of cuckolds: the submissive, forced bisexual, and the voyeurs. The submissive cuckold will desire seeing how much better a sex partner the other man is than himself. He may even enjoy wearing a chastity device on his penis so he can’t get off during the sexual act. The forced bisexual gets excited, because he is allowed to explore gay desires of watching another naked man have sex in a safe, nonjudgmental arena. While the voyeurs get off merely by watching a man bring his wife to climax.
Good Candidates for a Cuckold Relationship
If you’re interested in having a cuckold relationship with your man, you must be in a loving, trusting relationship, where impulses of jealousy or mistrust are not a common occurrence, because not only does your husband have to accept you having sex with another man or men, he should also desire seeing it. Cuckolding also works well for couples that are sexually open with each other. It can also be a great way to spice up your sex life. As women move into their 30s, their libidos start increasing. For women going through menopause, the hormone replacement pills can increase a woman’s libido, making her want to have sex more often. As men age, their libido decreases. By entering into a cuckold relationship, the wife’s sexual appetite and the husband’s ability to satisfy her without exerting his own efforts will be fulfilled.
Cuckolding has also been deemed a fetish for people with high IQ’s. Anneli Rufus writes in her article The Intellectual Sex Fetish that it takes a very smart man to move past jealousy, and that initial want to tear apart the man who has potentially tainted the marital bond him and his wife share. Instead, the man understands jealousy is a social construct and what the man is truly feeling is competition. “That’s why it’s mostly intellectuals who are into cuckolding: because other guys are crippled by jealousy. They’re aroused and upset and don’t know why,” says Rufus.
Bad Candidates for a Cuckold Relationship
Cuckolding is not for everyone. In some relationships, being a cuckold could potentially damage the sanctity of the marital bond the couple has created. Many men will not be able to move past jealousy in order to feel the pleasure of seeing their wife fucking another man, even if he knows it’s purely sexual. What he understands is his wife’s vagina is only for his dwelling and another man should not enter it. Women may feel uncomfortable sharing their body with another man, even if her husband encourages it. And even the most sexually adventurous couples will realize fantasizing about bringing another man into their sexual relationship is very different when the fantasy becomes reality. This brings me to my next point on the importance of discussing cuckolding before engaging in it.
Discussing Having a Cuckold Relationship with your Partner
Whispering to your man that you want to fuck the guy sitting across from you in the restaurant, then going back to eating your meal is one thing, but actually going through with it, in front of your husband, is another story. If you’re interested in experiencing a cuckold relationship, it’s important to hash out all the details with your partner beforehand. Here are a couple loose guidelines to having a positive discussion on cuckolding with your partner.
Discuss the possible emotions that could come up for the both of you before, during and after the act. On a scale of 1-10, at what level will your husband’s jealousy be at if he sees a man touching you? Does he get uncomfortable at the thought of you being brought to orgasm by another man? Are you uncomfortable with sharing your bed with someone who isn’t the man you’re committed to? Are you self-conscious about your body image and afraid to be naked in front of a stranger? Are you both interested in trying this one time or making it a permanent lifestyle change? Have either of you experienced female dominated sex before? If not, I would encourage you both to meander around that area before moving into a cuckold relationship. If you’re currently in a FemDom relationship and you find the role reversal to be enticing and liberating for both of you, than you may be ready to talk about the logistics of cuckolding such as how you will find your bull, will your man be allowed to have sex with you after and how long, and will the bull be allowed to stick around once the sexual act has been completed?
Why Women Enjoy Cuckolding
There are multiple reasons as to why women are happier in cuckold relationships. For one, it satisfies the increase in libido women can experience between the ages of 27 and 45. It also enables women to indulge in their innate desire to have multiple partners without feeling like they are cheating. Plus, women in a cuckold relationship are the center of attention, so by receiving the majority of the pleasure, their happiness builds.
In the end, entering into a cuckold relationship with the man in your life can be thrilling, scary and life changing, for the right couple. Luckily, there are tons of wonderful resources online where you can research and chat with people who understand your desire to explore the fetish. Don’t feel inhibited to take a peak, you may be surprised at what you discover.